PERSONALITY

Always remember, whatsoever I say to you, you can take it in two ways. You can simply take it on my authority, 'Because I say so, it must be true' -- then you will suffer, then you will not grow. Whatsoever I say, listen to it, try to understand it, implement it in your life, see how it works, and then come to your own conclusions. They may be the same, they may not be. They can never be exactly the same because you have a different personality, a unique being. Whatsoever I am saying is my own. It is bound to be in deep ways rooted in me. You may come to similar conclusions, but they cannot be exactly the same. So my conclusions should not be made your conclusions. You should try to understand me, you should try to learn, but you should not collect knowledge from me, you should not collect conclusions from me. Then your mind-body will grow.

My message is not a doctrine, not a philosophy. My message is a certain alchemy, a science of transformation."

---

Pick From Osho Master, Very Very true and sincere.

Back to Blog

After 8 months since last blog, back here again to write down some thoughts. After went back from Bukit Mertajam yesterday, everything seems wrong to me. Not happy for myself, my wife, my son and everybody. It had been long time I don't have such feeling, been training myself to be positive on whatever circumstances.

Reading some books of Osho, very interesting personality. Some how, I felt that my life in the past had been wasted as i lived for others by wearing the mask when communicate with peoples. I never live for myself, even ONE TIME. Need to re engineering my mind and start to ask myself what do I want in MY LIFE???????

Zhao Xun is becoming hard to manage now. Started to follow what friends wanted to do, try to get recognized by friends. Always tell him my duty is not to tell him what to do, but rather help him to find out what he wanted to do, but I guess he become more confuse as he still don't know what he wanted to do.

Zhao Xun's Basketball Competition

Went to watch son's basketball competition this morning. Watch him play 2 games, and the frustration he had after the games Vs the confident he had before the games. Had to admit, he still young and need to learn more. No doubt, he is better compare to last time he played. This time, he shown the confident, but the skill is out. He wanted to do something on it, but his body restrict him from doing it, he had no stamina for the games, can't event last 5 minutes. He can't control the ball well, and this really really frustrate him. Who to Blame?? Himself. When you want to do smart in academic, first he must be well prepare and concentrate, similarly if you want to be a sportman, you must also have passion and learn the skill of the games, and not thiking of because of I had the potential, I should be good, and it came naturally.

值得珍惜的话

1. 每天告诉自己一次，『我真的很不错』

2. 生气是拿别人做错的事来惩罚自己

3. 生活中若没有朋友，就像生活中没有阳光一样

4. 明天的希望，让我们忘了今天的痛苦

5. 生活若剥去了理想、梦想、幻想，那生命便只是一堆空架子

6. 愚者用肉体监视心灵，智者用心灵监视肉体

7. 获致幸福的不二法门是珍视你所拥有的、遗忘你所没有的

8. 贪婪是最真实的贫穷，满足是最真实的财富

9. 你可以用爱得到全世界，你也可以用恨失去全世界

10. 人的价值，在遭受诱惑的一瞬间被决定

11. 没有了爱的语言，所有的文字都是乏味的

12. 真正的爱，应该超越生命的长度、心灵的宽度、灵魂的深度

13. 爱的力量大到可以使人忘记一切，却又小到连一粒嫉妒的沙石也不能容纳

14. 一个人真正觉悟的一刻，他放弃追寻外在世界的财富，而开始追寻他内心世界的真正财富

15. 不论你在什么时候开始，重要的是开始之后就不要停止

16. 不论你在什么时候结束，重要的是结束之后就不要悔恨

17. 抱最大的希望，为最大的努力，做最坏的打算

18. 家!甜蜜的家!天下最美好的莫过于家

19. 每一件事都要用多方面的角度来看它

20. 所有的胜利，与征服自己的胜利比起来，都是微不足道

21. 所有的失败，与失去自己的失败比起来，更是微不足道

22. 美好的生命应该充满期待、惊喜和感激

23. 少一点预设的期待，那份对人的关怀会更自在

24. 思想如钻子，必须集中在一点钻下去才有力量

25. 人只要不失去方向，就不会失去自己

26. 当你能飞的时候就不要放弃飞

27. 当你能梦的时候就不要放弃梦

28. 当你能爱的时候就不要放弃爱

29. 生命太过短暂，今天放弃了明天不一定能得到

30. 人总是珍惜未得到的，而遗忘了所拥有的

31. 快乐要懂得分享，才能加倍的快乐

32. 自己要先看得起自己，别人才会看得起你

33. 要铭记在心；每天都是一年中最美好的日子

34. 乐观者在灾祸中看到机会；悲观者在机会中看到灾祸

35. 有勇气并不表示恐惧不存在，而是敢面对恐惧、克服恐惧

36. 肯承认错误则错已改了一半

37. 明天是世上增值最快的一块土地，因它充满了希望

38. 理想的路总是为有信心的人预备着

39. 所有欺骗中，自欺是最为严重的

40. 经验是由痛苦中粹取出来的

41. 用最少的悔恨面对过去

42. 用最少的浪费面对现在

43. 用最多的梦面对未来

44. 如你想要拥有完美无暇的友谊，可能一辈子找不到朋友

45. 不如意的时候不要尽往悲伤里钻，想想有笑声的日子吧

46. 把自己当傻瓜，不懂就问，你会学的更多

47. 要纠正别人之前，先反省自己有没有犯错

48. 要克服生活的焦虑和沮丧，得先学会做自己的主人

49. 你不能左右天气，但你能转变你的心情

50. 孤单寂寞与被遗弃感是最可怕的贫穷

51. 好好扮演自己的角色，做自己该做的事

52. 一切伟大的行动和思想，都有一个微不足道的开始

53. 人生重要的不是所站的位置，而是所朝的方向

中秋的思念

Today is Moon Cake Festival.
What could I remember for the past 40 years of Moon Cake Festival??
Remember it is time to have moon cake.
Remember the time where eldest sister's home made moon cake which unable to fulfill the order every year
Remember sharing moments with friends, especially when we are feeling very very down; Remember Pesta Tanglung In UKM, where I did my guitar performance in stage;
Remember sharing life with Huey Ling & Irene at final year;
Remember brought Kioas and Wife at Lumut For Festival Parade;
Remember the taught and life sharing of father before he died;
Remember the love of mother when in UKM Campus for 4 years;
Remember counting stars with wife;
Remember ........................................

Remember so many and missed most were the life I had past, I only able to store as memories, nothing much.
Missed my life with friends, Kok Ang, Mejar EK, ML Ong, Tee Fong, Lian See, and many many more. Just don't understand, most of the festival = Moody, sign of getting old?? Start to appreciated life?? Maybe I had put to much of myself for them, similarly for them, just can't get away from it

宽容与信任

人必须学会宽容与信任. That is what I am learning and trying now. Try to forgive and trust my family, my friends, my clients, all human being, no matter what they have done to me. Always believe things happen for a reason, always having positive attitude toward life. Read an article from Osho, saying that human being must be selfish. Bu being selfish, you will make thing to happen to your liking. Thus, If you love your wife, and by loving her make you happy, then you must do it. Because of your selfishness, you will always try to make her happy as you love yourself more than anyone else, and since you like her to be happy, then you will always to make events happen so that she became happy. Make sense isn't it???? Be Selfish, Love your self, Then You Will love other more As You Like To See It From The Selfishness Point Of You.

Marriage MileStone - 15 Years

Mark 15 years of marriage life on 20/09/2007. Such a long time and yet gone so fast. Tell Wife that one important I learn for the marriage is to respect each other, no matter what issue arises. Treat with respect and trust will definitely prolong the marriage life. We may have argument, disagreement (Wife mind is simple, mines is complex), but that is we were created/borne with, and we have to live to it, accept the differences. We do not have to agree to each other, but we need to speak out our disagreement. Anyway, very happy to have such lovely but yet stubborn wife. Hope to mark another 15 years, and I shall not regret in life.

Presenting a topic in UBS Seminar at Crystal Hotel, Sitiawan. Had Been out of public speaking for more than 8 years, but found that I still able to performance well. Not to praise myself, but I really do have skill when presenting. Especially when I talked, ideas and points keep on pop up from my mind, it could be a problem, as I could out of the topic if I didn't stop. Mark a good sales as well.